Homelessness and Youth ~ Enablement VS. EMPOWERMENT

This is the speech I am about to present to the top 300+ CEO's of Sydney, AU. This problem is a global problem, but it is not a challenge that cannot be fixed.

The end of 2009 beginning of 2010 seems like a lifetime away for me. So much has happened since then. It’s been a huge year all around. We have seen devastating earthquakes and tsunami’s, volcanic eruptions, up’s and down’s in the stock market, and all the while the numbers of homeless people, right here in Sydney, are continuing to grow. You are all about to get a taste of what it is like to sleep outside for the night, but to be honest, and I am sure you are all aware, that your experience tonight does not compare to what it is like to be out there night after night, day after day.

Over the last year, I have had some extraordinary experiences, two of which I would like to share with you tonight.

First, is the 8 weeks that I spent with youths in Hurstville, NSW. I was shown what it was like to be anywhere from 14 to 21 years of age, forced out of your home and out on to the streets by parents who were either too busy, or too emotionally unstable to care for their children. These kids let me into their world so I could better understand their needs. What I found was heart wrenching. I learned quickly that most of these kids had been in the “system” for quite a while, and yes, some of them had learned how to manipulate it very well. I also learned of how severe the need continues to be, for emergency shelters, mental health services, and education, for not only the kids, but for the communities that they are being abandoned in.

Ok, so you say we can’t fix it all, it will take time. I get that, but these kids don’t have time. They are out there being abused and neglected. They are facing drugs and alcohol as a way of escaping the life that they feel they have no control over.

It’s not about a free ticket. Being on centrelink as an adolescent just sets them up for a life of being enabled. We need to find ways to empower these kids. Getting them off the streets and into safe housing with programs that will teach them how to find the magnificence within themselves is a great start to breaking the cycle of homelessness and substance abuse that has been going on for generations.

The second experience that I would like to share with you is about the time I spent with a young man named Donnie.

Donnie was 18 years old and homeless, spending his nights and days on George St. I was working on Goulburn st, and everyday I would see this young man huddled in the corner trying to keep warm. After being here last year with you all, I could not just walk by him. I stopped and asked him if he had eaten and he said not for a couple of days. So I bought him breakfast and we sat down and he told me about himself. Donnie had come up from Melbourne for work but once he arrived here in Sydney, the work dried up and he had no way to get back home. One night I saw him and he was so sick he could barely stand up. So I got him into an internet café for the night because there wasn’t any room in the men’s shelter. He had a fever and was pretty dehydrated, so I bought him some juice and panadol and a sandwhich that he could eat when he felt up to it. Donnie and I repeatedly tried to get him into the men’s shelter but it was consistently full. There just wasn’t enough room. There just aren’t enough facilities.

There are so many more people that I have met over the past year, mum’s and children, husbands and wives, single men and women, and yes even children out there on their own.

What you are doing here tonight is incredibly important; and believe me I know the value of what St. Vincent De Paul and places like Amelie House is. Without their assistance women like myself, might still be out there on the streets, and moving from couch to couch alienating friends and family. But because of the work that is being done here tonight, we can continue to make a difference.

So what is my goal for this year, you ask . . .

I have created a workshop for teens that speaks in their language that encompasses their music and their culture so that they can easily assimilate the message. And my message is, that they are all incredible and magnificent human beings. Each with their own strengths and weaknesses but they all have the right and the ability to be anything and everything they can dream of.

I am working on making this a multi-media event that I can take to the schools, to the communities, and to anyone who will listen, because our kids are our future and if we don’t lead by example, they will have nothing to follow. This is my dream, and I believe that dreams do come true.

So, tonight I thank you from the bottom of my heart, for the assistance that not only I received almost 2 years ago now, but for your participation and generosity tonight.

I look forward to seeing you all again next year to celebrate our victories and once again find better ways of serving those who need our help.

Recognizing Flow

Recognizing Flow

When you hear about being in the state of flow, what does that mean to you? What are the circumstances that show you that you are experiencing flow? Where and how does it feel? Can you pinpoint a place in your body that is like your barometer of flow for you?

Being in a state of flow means different things to different people; it is all based on what or who they are aligned with and where their focus is. If you are focused on relationships, your state of flow might reflect the condition of your current relationships and if you are continuing to attract the same qualities in meeting new people. Are you attracting people who support your current relationships and add value to your life? If the focus is on creating financial wealth, the state of flow would be reflected in the amount and quality of opportunities presenting themselves; as well as what the outcomes of these opportunities are. Are you truly in alignment with the type of financial wealth you are wanting to create? What are the types of opportunities that are coming to you reflecting to you? Are they moving you forward or are they showing you that you have not yet set your standards high enough?

When we are in flow, it looks as though everything is working. Our emotional life is stable, we are physically healthy and we feel a sense of joy about our lives. Our body reacts to outside stimuli in an appropriate and concise manner. Our health, our mind, and our spirit all benefit from these abundant times. In turn, our health, mind, and spirit also tell us when we are not in flow, when we are out of alignment, out of flow. Usually, there is one area of your body, one body system that will signal you when you are in and out of flow. For some the heart and throat chakras are the indicators, other people report their solar plexus and abdominal chakras to be the areas that communicate this to them. To be able to recognize this takes practice. You must find the awareness of the messages that your body is sending to you, correlate these messages with your current situation, and you will soon learn how your body reacts to being in and out of flow.

Physical Contact and Judgememt

How is it, that one can be so spiritually developed but yet still have the “need” for physical contact you ask? Is this “need” related to an issue of lack, or is it simply a basic human need. It is only when you, as a human, judge your physical interactions as immoral, that you cause yourself distress and anxiety about your actions. We would say that your in-action on the topic of your desire is what leads you to create situations that your soul is not in alignment with. Thus, you feel the dissonance in the vibration of the event and your fear of not being regarded as moral causes you to judge yourself and others who have participated in this behaviour.

Of course, in your human form, you have physical desire for touch, stimulation, sex, caressing and the like. This is normal. It serves you in many ways. It grounds you, gives your body hormones that are necessary for balanced functions of your brain, heart, and various other organs, not to mention keeping your body flexible and your joints well lubricated. But what of the mental distress you cause yourself through judgement?

Expectation, attachment, and judgement are all related. If you decide to fill your need for physical contact with an experience and then condemn yourself for it, why do it in the first place? Wasn’t the point to bring a bit of pleasure into your life? When you engage in any aspect of Love, whether it be physical or emotional, and you carry expectations into the interaction, you are setting yourself up for disappointment, and this interaction is coming from a place of an imbalance within yourself. Not to mention that this type of interaction is not unconditional. The conditions of, “If I engage with you and you don’t continue to spend time with me, I will not keep you in my life”; and the like, create an imbalance within your heart space not only for yourself, but towards the others.

Next time you have this desire, be sure to ask yourself, “Am I craving physical contact, or the feeling of Love that physical contact brings?” If it is the comfort and pleasure that physical stimulation brings and you decide to act upon that desire, be sure to leave expectation and attachment at the door. This will alleviate the “morning after syndrome”. If it is the feeling of Love that you are seeking, evaluate the external situation, and then decide if engaging in physical contact will give you that feeling. If not and you are willing to seek another way to fill that void, go for it.

Save yourself heartache and self-degradation, be true to who you are, and SHINE.

Shine On Brilliant Stars

Arch Angel Gabriel

Channelled through Constance Fairleight.

TRAPPED VS. CHALLENGED

Nothing rests; everything moves; everything vibrates.

—The Kybalion

It IS within each and every one of you to master your own personal vibration. It is a conscious choice to re-program your thought and speech patterns. It all starts with the intention to create positive change in your life.

The words you choose to express your particular situation are the outward representation of the level of vibration you are currently operating at. When you choose words such as “I am trapped. . .” “I hate my life. . . “ “My family has deserted me . . .” These words reflect a vibration that is slow and dense, a vibration that is not in alignment with energies that are used in creating forward movement in your life. You may feel trapped, deserted, and even resentful for the current condition of your life, but when you start to change the way you speak about these situations you begin to take back your personal power. By taking responsibility for the vibrational output of the words you use and the thoughts behind them, you are making the first step in creating the life you truly desire.

So you are asking, “How do I change the words I use if the feelings haven’t changed?” Ok here is an example. A person is in an abusive relationship and wants to get out of that situation, but when they speak about their position in the relationship they say things like, “I am trapped and I have no way out.” “I can’t leave . . . I have nowhere to go.”

These words lend themselves to victim energy, which is a very low vibrating energy and allows those who align themselves with it, to manifest more of the same. To begin to create forward movement out of any situation you need to begin to think about it from a place of a higher vibrational frequency. This is the first step to creating positive change in your life. When you say, “I am trapped and I have no way out.” You are! If you change your mindset and the words you use, to reflect the desire for change, you might say, “This is a challenge that I will overcome.” You will!

This takes practice and diligence to re-pattern your thoughts and choice of words. It is possible to take back control of the energy that you are putting into your words. It starts with changing your perspective on how you think and how you express your thoughts and feelings.

There is More to This Than a Goodbye

There is more to this than just a goodbye.

Each tear that has been shed has fallen into the sea of immeasurable change.

Each step that was taken was one more step away from fear, and one more step toward who I AM.

When you look into my eyes you will not see who you knew then, but the woman who I have become.

Each gift that has come at a price was well worth the cost.

Each lesson learned through pain and heartache is now recognized to be truly valued.

The moment I looked into the mirror and I saw someone I didn’t know, I knew it was time for change.

Each time I blamed myself; I took on your responsibility and became the victim.

Each time I cried out for help, I forgot to look within first.

I am no longer searching for what is without, I know with all certainty that all I need is within.

There is more to this than a goodbye, there is ultimate appreciation for all that I have.

2011 ~ A New Start

Welcome to 2011. This year looks to have already started with such an incredible energy. The first day of this year had a date which will not be seen for another one hundred years. 01/ 01/ 11 are perfect numbers for a clean start.

With the energy the way it is here on Earth now, if you are even remotely aware, you cannot help but feel the new energy. There is a sense of great expectation and true faith that the Universe is providing for all. This year promises to bring increased health and well being, an abundance of Love, Light, responsibility and joy.

I am an Intuitive who specializes in helping people to strengthen the connection to their soul choices so they may live the life that they truly desire. Over the following months it will be my goal to assist those who are ready to move forward through this blog and through personal consultations. If you are ready to commit to personal growth, wish to gain focus, clarity of purpose, and personal empowerment, and feel that my work will benefit you in your journey then contact me either through Facebook, email constance.fairleightfoundation@gmail.com

or by mobile phone at +61431 289 503. I am available by phone, internet, and or in-person consultations.

I look forward to serving you and your highest good.

Many Blessings and much Love,

Constance Fairleight

The Ego, The Mind, and Manifestation

Some say the ego is the thing that drives us that the ego is what protects us, and the ego makes us stronger. There are theories that the mind controls the ego, that the mind is the stronger of the two, and that the mind in all of its infinite wisdom, determines what the ego is allowed to do.

If you are reading this, your ego has probably served you well so far. You have completed a certain level of education that allows you to read, write, and communicate with the rest of the human beings on this amazing planet, because your ego would not allow you to fail at school. That is one way the ego does serve us very well. In this example, the ego has not only driven you to a level of success in your education, it has protected you from what some may consider being an embarrassing situation, illiteracy. So now, because you can read, write, and communicate you feel strong enough to go out into the world and pursue that position that you have been looking at. You are now a productive part of society, BUT…what the ego forgot to tell you is that you could have gone so much further, that now that you have all of these wonderful skills, you could become an author, or a artist, a teacher, or a Quantum Physics professor, it forgot to ask you what your Soul purpose is; and that is because it is very happy with the status quo. The ego is the voice in your head that says, “Well sure you’d love that million dollar estate in Bronte, but look at what you already have. You have a roof over your head, 2.3 children, a decent car…you should be grateful for what you have.” The ego does serve us to a certain extent, but it is also what holds us back. It is what creates boredom and suggests to us that we “settle” for what we have. It is definitely NOT a tool in manifesting your Soul urge.

The mind is an extremely important tool that we have been given. According to Dr. Tad James, we have two minds, the conscious and the unconscious minds. The unconscious mind is what runs your body; it is what makes your heart beat, it moves you lungs so you can breathe, causes your eyes to blink, and controls the lymphatic system of your body. It is also the centre for everything that you have ever learned. The unconscious mind is where we store all of our memories. Yes, learning must go through our conscious mind, but it is stored in our unconscious mind. The conscious mind is the part of us that shows the world who we are. It is what enables us to communicate with that person who is standing in front of us, and it is the part of the mind that the ego wants rapport with. The ego wants to control the conscious mind so that it can manipulate us into believing that it knows best and it will deceive us by trying to create a relationship with our consciousness. This is where the unconscious mind is a life saver. It wants rapport with the conscious mind, it wants to assist us with change, it knows our purpose, and it is intrinsically connected to our Soul.

In the process of manifestation, or what I refer to as “Intention + Inspired Action”, the ego is an obstacle, the mind an assistant, and the Soul the source of inspiration. We can choose to listen to the voice of the ego and remain in a life that we are content with, or we can choose to explore our Soul purpose and live a life of bliss.

Constance Fairleight is the author of “Creating the Life You Truly Desire”. This is a program for those who want to make positive change in their lives and who are willing to take the necessary action steps to achieve their goals. Constance can be reached at +61431 289 503 or you can email her at constance@fairleightfoundation.org for more information about the course, public speaking engagements, and personal consultations.